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Why am I watching porn? Uncover the reason for sex addiction and how to achieve lasting sobriety

So many recovery plans are based on our strength to be disciplined enough to overcome sex addiction. You think, if I can just assess my temptations and structure my life in such a way to avoid lust and porn then I will succeed.

In my experience, will power wasn't enough. I would maintain sexual sobriety for days, sometimes weeks, but I would eventually go back to it. Pragmatism just wasn't enough.

When I finally uncovered WHY I was running to porn, I started to find true and lasting freedom along with sobriety. This is the aim of our discussion. Finding out your "why".

Why are you looking at porn? Once you understand this about yourself, you are closing in on freedom. HINT: It is probably NOT because you want sex. Let's chat this week and learn your why.

Freedom is coming!

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30 Days NO SEX Challenge: How to break your porn and lust addiction in one month

As a sex addicted Christian you have grown accustomed to a steady diet of porn and lust. You have trained the pallet of your desires to crave the very thing that is slowly killing you.

Many sex addicts have told me over the years that God just isn't satisfying enough for them to leave their addiction behind. But I say, how would you know? Your appetite for God is so dull because you are so used to ingesting porn. It's the reason we keep going back to McDonald's. Not because the food is necessarily and it certainly isn't good for us.

It's because we trained our tastes to want it. But if we were to STOP eating it, for a season, our tastes buds would actually change and we would start to experience healthy foods differently.

This is our aim in the 30 Days of No Sex Challenge. Single or married, I want you to consider giving up porn and all sexual experiences for 30 days. You need to starve yourself of the junk food and learn to feast on what is deeply satisfying.

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A Friend for the Porn Addict: 3 things to look for when choosing choosing a friend during recovery

As a porn addict you have been living alone, isolated from others. For you to find freedom from your sexual addiction, a close friend will be a necessity.

However, the shame of your addiction has kept you from sharing your struggles with anyone. You want to tell someone, but who? Who can you trust with such a big secret?

Today I want to help you answer that question. In this video we are going to look at 3 things you should be looking for when deciding who to trust with your story.

Listen closely today and find someone who exemplifies these 3 character traits and plan a time to start letting them into your story.

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Crush the Shame of Sex Addiction: 4 keys to overcoming the shame of pornography

Shame has more people stuck in a sexually broken lifestyle than anything else. It is far too common that you get pulled into the shame cycle and it's power sucks you in leading to more and more addictive acting out.

We have to understand shame, our typical responses to it and consider what God’s response to our shame is so we might break this cycle and find our freedom.

Today we are going to take at look at 4 aspects of shame that will end with solving the shame of your sex addiction.

This video is a flagship pillar that you must get in place if you want to have any hope of living a life without your addiction.

I hope this conversation sets you on your way to freedom!

4 Keys To Understanding Your Shame:

  1. Life Without Shame: The Garden of Eden
  2. Shame Begins Where Trust Ends
  3. Our Responses to Our Shame
  4. God's Response to Our Shame
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Cultivating Closeness After Sex Addiction: A conversation tool 4 married couples navigating recovery

The days, weeks, and months after sexual betrayal is an extremely important moment for married couples. When porn or sex addiction is brought into the light for spouses, you need clear and helpful things to navigate these challenging times.

In this video I want to share with you one of the best things that my wife and I did after I confessed my sex addiction with her.

Today we will look at a simple conversation outline that you can follow with your husband or wife daily that will help you to build intimacy and trust in your relationship.

You don't want to miss today's conversation if you are married. But, even if you are not married, you can use this same check in with a close friend that is walking with you through your recovery.

Video mentioned in today's discussion: The 3 Circles

Shattered Vows by Debra Laaser

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The 3 Circles Of Recovery: Sex addiction recovery action step you can take today

Often porn addicts make excuses for why that remain addicted. One excuse I hear often is just not knowing what to do.

Today I want to help you by eliminating that excuse. We are going to talk practical recovery steps for the sexually addicted.

When I was early in my recovery I learned The 3 (three) Circles when I was a part of the 12 (twelve) Step Program, Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). This simple guide was extremely helpful is thinking clearly about what I should and should not be doing.

It is time to take a step towards freedom. Join me in today's discussion and create your very own 3 Circles to guide you towards sobriety.

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Don't Waste Your Porn Addiction: Ben Roethlisberger's Porn Addiction Story & 3 Ways God Shaped Mine

What do we have in common with Big Ben Roethisberger in regard to our own sexual brokenness?

This past week Big Ben shared about his porn addiction at a speaking event and shared some of his story.

In this week's video I want to share with you the 3 things that God has taught me through my own struggles with lust and porn addiction.

Our stories don't have to end with sexual brokenness. God wants to redeem our stories. Join me as we take a longer look at this redemption.

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Overcoming Sexual Lust and Temptation: 3 things you can do today to escape & avoid your addiction

Are you continuing to give into your temptations to look at porn? Is it impossible for you to not act out sexually every time your addiction calls?

In this video I want to discuss 3 things that I have learned in my journey to freedom from sex addiction when it comes to not giving into temptation.

Lustful temptations can feel like a kryptonite in the moments when they come and we rarely win the battle. Pornography, escorts, massage parlors, girlfriends or boyfriends, or any number other things call out to us and we are lured into its seductive trance.

That's over now. You don't have to lose the temptation battle anymore.

Link mentioned in this video: Porn Is Not Your Problem

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Father's Day For The Porn Addict: 3 Ways Sex Addiction is Ruining Dad

For years my secret sex addiction plagued my relationships, specifically with my kids and wife. Carrying around a secret deeply affects your relationships with others.

As we celebrate Father's Day this week I want to help you, dad, to enjoy the relationship with your child that you long to have. Sadly, your addiction is blocking you from that gift.

In this week's video we are going to discuss 3 ways that your porn addiction is affecting the relationships with your kids and offer you a hope for something different.

Happy Father's Day! I pray that this year will be the year that you find freedom from your sex addiction and renewed life in your parenting.

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What Do Racism & Sex Addiction Have in Common? 4 similarities that I see between the two

The tragic and unjust death of George Floyd has wrecked me. Personally, I am now doing a few things to educate myself, pray, and take action.

As I've reflected there are 4 things that I see as similar between racism and sexual addiction.

In this video I want to draw our attention to this similarities and bring us to the cross of Jesus Christ to find mercy and hope.

I hope that this conversation helps you to take both issues more seriously and that we can all be better citizens of the earth.

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