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Cultivating Closeness After Sex Addiction: A conversation tool 4 married couples navigating recovery

The days, weeks, and months after sexual betrayal is an extremely important moment for married couples. When porn or sex addiction is brought into the light for spouses, you need clear and helpful things to navigate these challenging times.

In this video I want to share with you one of the best things that my wife and I did after I confessed my sex addiction with her.

Today we will look at a simple conversation outline that you can follow with your husband or wife daily that will help you to build intimacy and trust in your relationship.

You don't want to miss today's conversation if you are married. But, even if you are not married, you can use this same check in with a close friend that is walking with you through your recovery.

Video mentioned in today's discussion: The 3 Circles

Shattered Vows by Debra Laaser

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The 3 Circles Of Recovery: Sex addiction recovery action step you can take today

Often porn addicts make excuses for why that remain addicted. One excuse I hear often is just not knowing what to do.

Today I want to help you by eliminating that excuse. We are going to talk practical recovery steps for the sexually addicted.

When I was early in my recovery I learned The 3 (three) Circles when I was a part of the 12 (twelve) Step Program, Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). This simple guide was extremely helpful is thinking clearly about what I should and should not be doing.

It is time to take a step towards freedom. Join me in today's discussion and create your very own 3 Circles to guide you towards sobriety.

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Don't Waste Your Porn Addiction: Ben Roethlisberger's Porn Addiction Story & 3 Ways God Shaped Mine

What do we have in common with Big Ben Roethisberger in regard to our own sexual brokenness?

This past week Big Ben shared about his porn addiction at a speaking event and shared some of his story.

In this week's video I want to share with you the 3 things that God has taught me through my own struggles with lust and porn addiction.

Our stories don't have to end with sexual brokenness. God wants to redeem our stories. Join me as we take a longer look at this redemption.

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Overcoming Sexual Lust and Temptation: 3 things you can do today to escape & avoid your addiction

Are you continuing to give into your temptations to look at porn? Is it impossible for you to not act out sexually every time your addiction calls?

In this video I want to discuss 3 things that I have learned in my journey to freedom from sex addiction when it comes to not giving into temptation.

Lustful temptations can feel like a kryptonite in the moments when they come and we rarely win the battle. Pornography, escorts, massage parlors, girlfriends or boyfriends, or any number other things call out to us and we are lured into its seductive trance.

That's over now. You don't have to lose the temptation battle anymore.

Link mentioned in this video: Porn Is Not Your Problem

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Father's Day For The Porn Addict: 3 Ways Sex Addiction is Ruining Dad

For years my secret sex addiction plagued my relationships, specifically with my kids and wife. Carrying around a secret deeply affects your relationships with others.

As we celebrate Father's Day this week I want to help you, dad, to enjoy the relationship with your child that you long to have. Sadly, your addiction is blocking you from that gift.

In this week's video we are going to discuss 3 ways that your porn addiction is affecting the relationships with your kids and offer you a hope for something different.

Happy Father's Day! I pray that this year will be the year that you find freedom from your sex addiction and renewed life in your parenting.

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What Do Racism & Sex Addiction Have in Common? 4 similarities that I see between the two

The tragic and unjust death of George Floyd has wrecked me. Personally, I am now doing a few things to educate myself, pray, and take action.

As I've reflected there are 4 things that I see as similar between racism and sexual addiction.

In this video I want to draw our attention to this similarities and bring us to the cross of Jesus Christ to find mercy and hope.

I hope that this conversation helps you to take both issues more seriously and that we can all be better citizens of the earth.

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Quit Your Recovery Now: How I found freedom from porn by quitting my recovery

I think that you need to quit your sex addiction recovery. But before you loose your cool, hear me out.

In this week's video I want to share with you a detailed part of my recovery story and how quitting actually led to beginning.

I finally started seeing less lust, porn, masturbation and over all sex addiction in my life when I learned this one very important thing.

My hope is that your will be released into the freedom you desire so desperately.

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Is Masturbation a Sin?: 7 Reasons Why I Believe You Should Avoid It

Is masturbation a sin according to the Bible and Christian beliefs? This is a difficult question to answer but I want to try to give you my best attempt.

In this video I am going to share with you 7 reasons I think that you should avoid masturbation but not because masturbation is expressly prohibited in the Bible.

  1. Sex (or sex acts) are meant for marriage
  2. 99.9% of the time, masturbation includes sexual lust or fantasies which are clearly prohibited in scripture
  3. It cultivates selfishness and a dehumanizing of others within the person which is the opposite of Christ’s goal in sanctification
  4. Isolating behavior the leads away from relationships instead of towards others
  5. A growing christian is learning self-control and trust in God by not demanding that their desires be fulfilled on demand
  6. The experience of guilt or shame in your life should cause you to pause and deeply consider your actions
  7. Masturbation is often a form of escapism that moves you opposite of the direction Jesus...
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Your Conflicts Are Leading To Porn Use: How To Deal With Relationship Problems

Unresolved conflict (or resentments) is one of the biggest culprits that are ruining more addicts than anything else. Your recovery from sex addiction requires you to deal with the bad relationships that you have.

Today we want to consider those relationships and how you should be approaching those with whom you are upset with or have hurt you.

First, you need to know that you are built for healthy relationship.

Second, you will need this most profound perspective before moving towards the conflict.

Let's find freedom by healing our conflicts.

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Marriage Makes Porn Use Worse

Did getting married fix your addiction to porn? I know it didn't for me.

Porn is more than sex AND marriage is more than sex.

So more sex or married sex won't fix your porn problem.

Let's chat about it.

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