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Quit Your Recovery Now: How I found freedom from porn by quitting my recovery

I think that you need to quit your sex addiction recovery. But before you loose your cool, hear me out.

In this week's video I want to share with you a detailed part of my recovery story and how quitting actually led to beginning.

I finally started seeing less lust, porn, masturbation and over all sex addiction in my life when I learned this one very important thing.

My hope is that your will be released into the freedom you desire so desperately.

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Is Masturbation a Sin?: 7 Reasons Why I Believe You Should Avoid It

Is masturbation a sin according to the Bible and Christian beliefs? This is a difficult question to answer but I want to try to give you my best attempt.

In this video I am going to share with you 7 reasons I think that you should avoid masturbation but not because masturbation is expressly prohibited in the Bible.

  1. Sex (or sex acts) are meant for marriage
  2. 99.9% of the time, masturbation includes sexual lust or fantasies which are clearly prohibited in scripture
  3. It cultivates selfishness and a dehumanizing of others within the person which is the opposite of Christ’s goal in sanctification
  4. Isolating behavior the leads away from relationships instead of towards others
  5. A growing christian is learning self-control and trust in God by not demanding that their desires be fulfilled on demand
  6. The experience of guilt or shame in your life should cause you to pause and deeply consider your actions
  7. Masturbation is often a form of escapism that moves you opposite of the direction Jesus...
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Your Conflicts Are Leading To Porn Use: How To Deal With Relationship Problems

Unresolved conflict (or resentments) is one of the biggest culprits that are ruining more addicts than anything else. Your recovery from sex addiction requires you to deal with the bad relationships that you have.

Today we want to consider those relationships and how you should be approaching those with whom you are upset with or have hurt you.

First, you need to know that you are built for healthy relationship.

Second, you will need this most profound perspective before moving towards the conflict.

Let's find freedom by healing our conflicts.

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Marriage Makes Porn Use Worse

Did getting married fix your addiction to porn? I know it didn't for me.

Porn is more than sex AND marriage is more than sex.

So more sex or married sex won't fix your porn problem.

Let's chat about it.

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You Just Got Caught. Now What?

So you just got caught and your sexual secrets are no longer a secret. Now what do you do?

It's ok, in fact, I'm really glad and extremely excited for what's next for you.

In this week's video we are going to discuss the 3 things you need to be doing or understanding right now.

This could be the best-worst moment of your entire life.

Let's talk about it!

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I See Dead People: Sex Addiction Leads to Death


Are you are being duped by your porn addiction? I fear you may be.

I know it's hard to see that because we are not able to see past our lust in the moments. But Solomon has some words of wisdom for us this week.

In this weeks video we consider the book of wisdom, Proverbs.

Proverbs uses strong and provocative language in hopes that we will hear and wake up from our sexually addicted induced coma. In this video we are going to compare and contrast porn's promises and God's.

Are you one of of the walking dead?

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Don't Lie To Me: The One Problem You Have That Keeps You Addicted To Porn

It's the same story every time we talk. You tell me about your having looked at porn, masturbated, had sex again, or gone to a strip club. You are sorry, it seems genuine. We pray and plan.

Then next week we talk again and it's the same story all over again. In this video we are going to get to the bottom of what you really want.

Do you want to be healed.....or not?

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Quarantine & Porn Ep. 3: Porn Addicted Singles, Spouses & Parents

We all are facing unique challenges during this time of isolated quarantine. I want to address singles, spouses and parents specifically and talk about one opportunity you each have during this time.

In this video we are going to identify a primary challenge and a subsequent opportunity for each.

Let us not allow the COVID-19 pandemic be the context for ruining our relationships.

This is episode 3 of a 3 part mini series: Quarantine & Porn.

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Quarantine & Porn Ep. 2: Isolated Into Community

Addictions isolate us even when life is normal. How much more now that we are facing isolation due to Covid-19 (Coronavirus)?

In this video we explore creative ways to build community as we are challenged by quarantine. We have to work hard to build community with others and also take advantage of our extra time to build community with God.

This is episode 2 of a 3 part mini series: Quarantine & Porn.

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Quarantine & Porn Ep. 1: Why Am I Looking at Porn More During COVID-19?

Why is it that so many are looking at pornography more while in quarantine during Covid-19 (Coronavirus)?

In this video we discuss how circumstances expose are true selves and how to bridge our real lives and our fantasy lives.

This is episode 1 of a 3 part mini series: Quarantine & Porn.

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